Dating someone therapy
Not surprisingly, the first year following a break up is often the hardest.
Birthdays, anniversaries and special days can provide a fairly constant reminder of what’s gone, even if you were the one to make the decision to split.
Taking time to work out what you could have done differently is likely to be helpful for the future but constant recriminations to your ex or to yourself will only drag you down and make getting over what’s happened even harder.
I would say though as a rule of thumb that if it’s affecting your ability to enjoy life and nothing seems to be improving, then talking to somebody objective such as a Relate counsellor can be really beneficial.
Often, getting over someone means dealing with all the practical paraphernalia that partnerships bring in their wake.
Dealing with this can often be such a painful reminder of what you’ve lost that we often put off sorting things out.
Putting myself on a dating site has allowed me to do the work of removing the internal blocks that I have towards achieving a relationship that is truly intimate.